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Tuesday Inspiration - 18 March 2008
by Melissa Bult
In Recognition Of Family...
 I have just finished reading the biography of my Pake (Friesian word for Grandfather). It has been sitting on my book shelf for almost a year and a half and for some reason it was only recently that I was compelled to pick it up and read it cover to cover. This week’s inspiration comes from what I discovered as the result of reading this book.
The old saying is that you can choose your friends but you can’t choose your family. That is because it is my understanding that you make contracts with your family before you come into this life. The soul picks a family to incarnate with in order for all the souls involved to get maximum learning, growth and support in that lifetime. As much as some days you might like to think that you are ‘no relation’ to those people, remember you picked them! (I know this can seem hard to understand in the case of children who are abused but there are sometimes reasons a soul chooses that we cannot see).
While reading Pakes’ book I came to understand more about my father. The things we agree on and disagree on, why he chose certain paths in his life and where his habits come from. So often we find family to be the most challenging of all the people we know. This seems to be most prevalent with our parents because they tend to be the closest to us (of course this is not always true). If we take the time to understand the childhoods’ of our parents and grandparents we become more compassionate towards those ‘irritating’ ideas and behaviours. And in the case of parents who were abusive in some way, we can perhaps understand better why they were/are like that, even though this is no excuse for their behaviour. We also open the door to healing old emotional patterns and beliefs that have come down the generations. Just because your parents have a limiting belief does not mean you have to carry it on.
I also began to understand how the experiences and heritage of my elder’s impacts upon whom I am today. We are linked by genetics but not just physically. There are energetic bonds that also bind us. Every experience your ancestors have had will be energetically coded into you. We bring the emotional patterns, traumas and beliefs through the generations. Sometimes we are not even sure where we picked up that limiting belief, but more than likely it came from our parents who got it from their parents! This also works for the positive things our families pass on to us, so we can have lots to be grateful for.
The biggest impact this book had on me was the new found respect I have for family. Knowing where your ancestors came from, what they went through, how they fought for the things you are now enjoying can create an overwhelming sense of gratitude. I am now even more proud to call myself a Bult after knowing what my grandparents had to do to come to this country and create the life we all enjoy today.
I would suggest that everyone do whatever they can to discover more about their heritage. It is a strange thing to say, but I actually feel more whole since discovering more about where I come from. We often do not take the time to understand or to appreciate the things those who have come before us have done to give us the life we now enjoy. Or, if we are not enjoying our life, what beliefs have been passed down to us now need to be deleted.
Either way we can be grateful that all the experiences both good and bad have led us to where we are today and at the same time acknowledging our wise soul for choosing this family for its purposes.
“All my relationships are loving and harmonious”
Have a lovely week everyone and loads of love and light to you all...
Melissa x
Melissa is a Life Coach, Spiritual Teacher and Naturopathic Consultant. Trained with Australia’s leading coaching institute – The Coaching Institute and as an Angel Intuitive™ with Doreen Virtue PH.D with advanced, she combines her knowledge of physical healing with the healing that comes with working with the angelic realm. She also added the metaphysical and practical concepts of Louise Hay’s work by becoming a ‘Heal Your Life and Achieve Your Dreams Teacher and Coach’
To Contact Melissa:
Email: melissa.bult@thelawofattractioncentre.co.nzWebsite: www.melissabult.com
Mobile: 0274 961 842
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